Am I The Only One?

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  1. EarlyMarksman

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    This is probably going to sound pathetic or weak to some of you, and that's ok, but I feel myself right now getting into the blues a little bit over my life. Maybe this is the incorrect place to post something like this, but I'm hoping that someone can relate and give me some reassurance or something. I was recently fired from my job over a mistake that I'd made. A good job making good money. I worked 12 hour shifts but the time off made it worth it. Now I'm working a monotonous job with only my weekends. Overtime is always mandatory when they have it, so it should pretty much tell you how much everyone enjoys the job. I come home, do some reading, go to bed, do it all again the next day. It's like I don't have any time to do anything I want to do. I find no value or worth in my work. I'm making half of what I made at my other job. I feel as if my goals in life will never be met and that I'll be stuck working a useless position at a company that cares about itself over it's workers forever. I'm no stranger to struggles, just to put it out there. I'm not happy with where I'm at, location-wise either. I just find myself longing for some type of end of the world event or some sort of end to all of the monotony. I feel like I'm trapped to be a slave to corporations and the government for all of my young life. I find myself becoming angry and frustrated at my situation and was just wondering what others thought about this, if you have been in this spot before and what you did to get out of it.
     
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  2. Caribou

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    Been there done that often enough that when I feel that way it's a good thing. Yep, then I know there is no way but up and that is something to look forward to. Worse than that when I get really happy I look around and wait for the other shoe to drop. Eventually I took responsibility for my own emotions and learned how to control them.

    Right now it might be hard to find another job but they are out there and after this bug burns out things should turn around and jobs will be plentiful again. Figure out what you want to do and work towards that.
     
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  3. Chris Survival&Prepper

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    Without knowing what fields your in its hard to offer suggestions, However, from a personal stand point I never accepted their opinion of what the job was supposed to be, I found that in many circumstances you can change the job to fit you more and if you cannot then there are other jobs available, even in this situation. Stores and businesses around here are begging for work force due to sending people how or people being afraid to come in. From my stand point there is no way that I would continue working at a job that I did not enjoy for more than as long as needed to find another job.
     
  4. F22 Simpilot

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    I was always told that someone out there has it worse than you do, and I guess it's correct. I mean, there's probably someone out there right now dying in misery from cancer, even a child. Right now as I type this someone was abducted, raped, and murdered where the body is never found and listed on that website I've seen of missing persons that go back decades. Right now I'm sure back in December someone had lost their job and now has to face this coronavirus shit where they can't afford to meet the rent, or buy food and medication.

    You asked if someone can relate. I can. I'm 39 years old, faced the mafia, had about seven to ten homos rape me at the age of 25, seen death and torture you wouldn't believe. I live with my parents and have no job, no car, no place to call my own and worst of all, no girlfriend. I've never felt the touch of a woman in 12 years. But through all the absolute fuckery that is my life I manage to pull myself up by the boot straps and carry on and somehow the medication and a loving mother helps brush it all away in the past where the memories stay and rot in hell.

    I have applied for housing and with any luck I'll have a place of my own, absent of a vehicle though. We have been given freewill and you can chose to do with it what ever you want so long as it's withen the confines of the law long written down by the smug, rich blowhards that are dubbed "policy makers." To reach out from the depths of hell requires a goal or goals. And it takes baby steps. One step at a time and you'll surely reach your overall goal. My goal was just leaving the damn house after being a damn shut in for four very long years. So what you need to do is create a goal, start small and work towards it. Perhaps it's doing something in the line of work you'd actually enjoy. If you're good in car repair then look at doing that. As they say, if you do a job you love you'll never work another day in your life. For me it was to fly for FedEx or UPS (didn't want to deal with asinine child-like passengers). But that's blown out of the water since the current FAR (Federal Aviation Rules) preclude me from flying. My other talent is computers and I may look into cybersecurity classes.

    So in a nutshell find a goal and work towards it to better yourself the way you intended. You have freewill to do so and you sure as hell aren't anyone's damn corporate slave. Nobody owns you. NOBODY!


     
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  5. EarlyMarksman

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    Yeah and at times I reckon I don't allow myself to realize that others have it far worse than I do. You are right though, pull myself up by the bootstraps and get serious about things. Thanks a bunch
     
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  6. EarlyMarksman

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    What do you mean by "never accepted their opinion of what the job was supposed to be"?
     
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  7. EarlyMarksman

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    Yes I reckon I need to push forward and quit allowing myself to fall so low. Easier said than done.
     
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  8. Dalewick

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    Life sucks and then we die! It's what we do on this side of the sod that matters. I've been a gardener, farm hand, soldier, janitor, gas station attendant, delivery driver, professional trapper, bouncer, club manager, wildlife biologist, government trapper and park ranger. Some times life throws us a curve ball. It's how we deal with it that determines where life leads us. A number of my jobs sucked. Hell, I've been shot, stabbed, blown up and seen most of my body black and blue from one thing or another.

    My recommendation.....If you don't like your life, change it. Only you can.

    What do you want to be? Do? Where do you want to be? What kind of woman do you want in your life? Can you be that person for them?

    Decide what you want out of life. Make a plan. Work hard at succeeding at your plan. NEVER QUIT!

    Dale
     
  9. TMT Tactical

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    Dale is absolutely correct. I have had so many up and downs in my life I sometimes wondered if I was a YoYo. Take the time to sit down and figure out who you are, what you want and then write out a game plan to get there. The difference between a wish and a goal, is a plan.
     
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  10. Pragmatist

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    Good morning Early Marksman,

    You are not the first - nor the last - to get fired from a job.

    The current monotonous job you've got has less to do with the new job and more so the national economy. The entire labor force is under pressure and boredom is part of the pressure. So is mandatory overtime. Th small compensation package is minor and would have happened anyway. The entire nation will soon experience a vast tax increase. Much will be "invisible taxes" but you're still in decent shape having employment and the good health to show up at work.

    Per your mentioned age bracket, you will experience the largest economic expansion in the history of the US. Thr best book on this was written in 1982 by Bernard Nussbaum, editorial staff, Business Week Magazine. It's titled "THE WORLD AFTER OIL".

    Your goals will be met. They are not a function of salary. They are a function of mental strength. General Joseph "Vinegar Joe" Stilwell known as "Our man in China" got fired by FDR. I've been fired more times than most here. It's like making mistakes. Those with few mistakes are doing little at the company. Remember, much of this is also about personal marketing. Show up at work in clean clothes, as the environment dictates, be somewhat approachable and appear as an asset to the labor pool. The new job and the stuff you want to do in life is in delay because of the pandemic and the quiet, over the horizon national economic changes going on.

    In the best of times, companies didn't care much about their labor force. There are volumes of books, memoirs, studies and lore on this. The PR hid much of this.

    In specific reply; Yes, I have been "in this spot". My original job served as an opiate - embryonic fluid - comfort, no pain, just pleasure. My approach got me to a better position. It does take time and maintenance of health, both physical and mental health. Just keep the pace, make contacts, minimize alcohol as a sedative, and be seen as someone who is part of the overall recovery efforts at the new company.

    The older Preppers here know exactly what you wrote above.

    MEGA
     
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  11. Patience

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    I like stoicism. Reading Marcus Aurelius. Just have to find your purpose.
     
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  12. poltiregist

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    A boring job is not all bad . Having an exciting or dangerous job can make someone an adrenaline junky , wanting something even more dangerous to get an adrenaline rush . This I know from my personal experience . Remember the fire fighter a year or two back in one of the western U.S. states that got sucked into a fire tornado and was whirling around in the air as the fire consumed him . Likely an adrenaline junkey that died happy .
     
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    1. Dalewick
      Not nice to pick on some of us. LOL!
       
      Dalewick, Mar 24, 2020
  13. Old Geezer

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  14. EarlyMarksman

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    I really appreciate all the feedback. I realize that I really just need to harden up and get over what I'm feeling and not allow what I feel to dictate my life. I've been a soldier as well but never saw combat, so I salute you for that. I was an 11 Bravo in the Army, so I do know about tough times and rough terrain a little bit.
     
  15. Pragmatist

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    Good morning EarlyMarksman,

    Glad to read your above post of 8:41 PM.

    Your 11B merit badge is an indicator you'll get through all this and land somewhere on the top of the pile.
     
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  16. Dalewick

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    Bro,...Your Infantry. It's just a down spell your going through. We all have them. I understand that. My wife and I lost 2 children (miscarriage's), my oldest daughter was born with a club foot and my youngest daughter survived leukemia. Life is hard. You'll pull through it.

    Decide on your mission. Develop your mission plan and go. Alter what they taught you to be a successful soldier and Charlie Mike.

    Dale

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  17. EarlyMarksman

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    You are right. I'm pulling through. Probably ain't gonna be the toughest thing I'll ever go through either so I'd better strap up and get ready.
     
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    1. Dalewick
      If you don't mind me asking, how old are you?
       
      Dalewick, Mar 26, 2020
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  18. EarlyMarksman

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    I am in my 20's
     
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  19. Dalewick

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    You have many years in front of you. This will pass and when it does. Make money. Find you a pretty woman to love and enjoy life to the fullest. Where in the world are you living. Approximately, if you don't mind. I currently live in West Virginia.

    Dale
     
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  20. EarlyMarksman

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    Alabama.
     
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  21. Dalewick

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    Well, I know a girl in Memphis, TN but she's looking to move back east. LOL! She is a great shot. That's why her daddy doesn't worry.

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    Dale
     
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  22. Dalewick

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    Life is the ultimate ride. Having someone to ride with you makes it better.

    The day I got married.
    83'

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    A couple years back.

    Dale
     
  23. EarlyMarksman

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    Congrats for 37 years of marriage! And by your description of this person and the resemblance to your wife, am I correct to assume this is your daughter?
     
    1. Dalewick
      Yep! My youngest.
       
      Dalewick, Mar 26, 2020
    2. Dalewick
      Wooopppps! 86 not 83. I am getting old. LOL!
       
      Dalewick, Mar 26, 2020
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  24. TexDanm

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    Ok, been there done that SEVERAL TIMES.

    Believe it or not, you are in a good place. A good job is great but as long as you work for other people any job may be a temporary thing. My Dad worked for a company for over 30 years and one day they just sold it and fired him. The same sort of thing has happened to me twice and once like you I was fired for a crappy reason.

    You are YOUNG. You are not doing what you want and like. USE this situation as motivation to make dreams come true.

    1. Sit down and make a list of what would be a perfect life for you. WRITE IT DOWN IN DETAIL. "An old man told me one time that If you don't know where you are going don't be surprised when you never get there." This is going to be your MAP.

    2. In the future any time that you have a big decision to make go in the direction that heads in that direction.

    3. Patience. Very little that is good and lasting comes from a quick action.

    4. Be open to making big changes if that is what it takes to get to where you want to be.

    5. Learn new things. Try new things. You never know when you will find something that you have a natural ability at and that you like doing.

    6. Money or time. Which matters the most to you. Decide and be realistic. If you want to get rich that is a 24/7 /365 endeavor. If you want more free time then scale back your lifestyle and learn to enjoy it.

    I went from a high paying job as a skilled craftsman to loading trucks. every place that I had ever worked went out of business. We made a plan and step one was me putting my wife through college. I did that working in a warehouse loading trucks. when she graduated I quit and we moved to a place that wasn't dependent on the oil industry and we started all over. We lost a house and left all of our friends and family behind. She got a great good-paying job with benefits and I eventually found my interest and eventually started my own business. Part of the move was a bugout. I went to a place that I will be able to stay and defend. No regrets. None of this would ever have happened if I hadn't lost a good job and got a crappy job that motivated us. When the going gets tough the tough get going. If the going is easy you probably won't go anywhere very far.

    good luck...
     
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      That's great advice. We could all use a reminder. Thanks!
       
      Blitz, Mar 27, 2020
  25. EarlyMarksman

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    I'm about to do exactly that. I am going to make my plan and act on it. I just recently started on numbers 2 and 5 by starting a garden and ordering a chicken coop and learning more about vehicle maintenance. Been trying to work more with my hands in my off time and I feel more fulfilled at the end of the day. I really appreciate this.
     
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  26. TexDanm

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    I ended up with a one-man appliance, Ac and heating repair business that I taught myself from books called Repairmasters that are like Chiltons for appliances and AC work. I worked the hours I chose, made 75 dollars an hour and spent more time fishing and doing the things that I love to do. My kid could work for me I could deduct her wages and she bought her own school clothes and stuff. There is a book that you need to read. It is called "Wealth Without Risk" by a guy named Charles J. Givins. It was life-changing for me.
     
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    1. Dalewick
      Sound advice.
       
      Dalewick, Mar 27, 2020
  27. Pragmatist

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    Persistence: Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unsuccessful genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination are omnipotent. The slogan, press on, will always solve problems of the human race.

    Calvin Coolidge

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  28. F22 Simpilot

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    Benjamin Franklin said that if you're at the end of your rope you tie a knot and hang on.

    Now with my sister in the hospital with covid-19 bullshit, my over 60 year old mother who has diabetes and is at high risk at getting it and my aunt who keeps getting blood clots and is in the hospital, I'm hanging on and trying to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
     
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  29. Richard Earley

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    I see you are former military..As am I and I have been thru some pretty rough times but I try to do the following..Adapt improvise persevere overcome accomplish the mission..NEVER GIVE UP!! NEVER QUIT!!
     
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    Adapt and survive!
     
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