I hear a lot of talk about being the Gray man. Blending in and not being noticed. With the opposite being overt and displaying a strong show of force. I think that’s a great in theory but often situationally doesn’t play out in reality. In reality you often can’t avoid being noticed, yet don’t want to escalate things either. I think how you really want to come off in most situations is benign. It’s more about an attitude or vibe than anything else. Armed or unarmed I can, tactically dressed or blending in with my clothing, either way I’m putting off a vibe. Real expert profilers and even casual untrained observers are typically reading more of your demeanor and body language rather than the clothing you a wearing or gear you have. Who cares if you have a camouflage jacket. Demeanor is foundational in my opinion. You want to seem benign, but typically also put out clues that you are not a pushover. There might be a time, or a moment when you want to come off as aggressive, or a threat. But generally you want to appear “capable but benign.” And As you study others it’s a major thing you are trying to observe about others. Learn to ready subconscious behavior. For instance when I travel overseas I carry a metal water bottle in my hand for defense. I’m a big guy, and I hold it like a weapon in my hand. But NOBODY registers it as a weapon, because everything else about screams, I am not going to hurt you. If I changed my demeanor the water bottle would immediately be a concern for many.